I think many of us believed we already knew what our parenting style would be even before we had kids. We thought we’d be the perfect parents with completely responsive kids all of the time and everything they’d do would be a direct reflection of all of our goodness as parents. How’s that working out for everyone?
Well, just for kicks, I stumbled upon some parenting tips and guides to parenting and more specifically, what are called the Baumrind Parenting Styles. Diana Baumrind held a PhD in psychology. She went on to develop a theory concerning four main types of parenting styles. All of these styles, playing a definitive role in how children functioned then and still function today. Read more about each one below.
Baumrind Parenting Styles
Authoritative Parenting Style
This specific parenting style is considered to be the “most ideal” by many. According to Baumrind, if you’re an authoritative parent, you set high standards for your children as well as closely monitor their behavior. Discipline is generally reasoning-based.
Parents who fall into this category are nurturing and not afraid to show their children kindness and respect. They are versed in the encouragement of decision making and promote the benefits of learning from one’s own mistakes.
Authoritarian Parenting Style
Authoritarian parents are more inclined to set rigid rules. They demand that their children follow those rules, withdrawing love and approval if they aren’t satisfied with the end results. Physical punishment and/or verbal insults are quite common in these situations.
Authoritarian parents give off an air of aloofness and sometimes lack warmth. Kids who grow up in this environment tend to be “followers” who are oftentimes anxious or moody.
Permissive Parenting Style
Permissive parents are sometimes too warm and affectionate toward their children. Many times they fail to set limits, make few demands and dish out zero consequences for misbehavior. Unfortunately, many of their children end up being immature, have difficulty accepting responsibility and cannot effectively control their impulses.
There is a second type of permissive parenting style that involves totally uninvolved parents who show their children very little affection. Studies indicate that children from these homes get into trouble frequently and are more often depressed.
Parenting Style Quiz
Do you see yourself as one of these types of parents? Maybe even a combination of two (or all three) of them? Interestingly enough, Diana Baumrind studied psychology in the late 40s and early 50s. But, even though years have passed, much of her research still holds true today. What do you think about her findings?