This story just absolutely touched my heart reading it. One of my fondest memories of my little sister was probably at her 4th birthday party. She was telling me about all of her friends and started to describe one of them whom she was most fond of. She described her as shorter than the others and with a special pretty face and eyes. We later learned that it was a little girl with down syndrome. I was touched that rather than point out that she was “different,” my sister embraced her differences and thought nothing more of it.
I see so many children who are so quick to point out other children’s differences for no other reason than to hurt them or make them feel outcasted and it hurts my heart. It hurts me for the teased child and it hurts me that the bully also must have so much masked pain.
Well, read the following story and if you have any words of advice for this parent, please share it below:
My son is 7 y/o and he’s always been different. We encourage his uniqueness and let him be who he wants to be, LGBTQ, it doesn’t matter to us what he identifies as. We live in a small town and my old coworker lives there as well. Her stepson, B, is 10 and is in the same class as my oldest R. We’ve had problems before with this kid where B spit on and pushed down R at a birthday party. B regularly tells R that his clothes are better or more expensive and is overall just a jerk. I don’t tell any of this to my friend, as its not her son and kids are kids. Last night after dinner R tells me he wanted to talk to me. Says the B will whisper in his ear on the bus “Dude, I think L is gay.” and start laughing. I dont know what to do. The momma bear in me wants to do something, but practical mom in me thinks not to. I mean, he isnt doing to TO L and isnt saying it to other kids that we know of.
We’ve known that L’s uniqueness could potentially cause bullying and have talked to R about how it might affect him as well and how to stick up for each other but this is the first time its really happened. Should I talk to my friend about her stepson? Or would this be a better lesson to my children to not let someone’s opinion of them define you and to always be true to yourself? I don’t want to tell R to “ignore it” because I feel like that sets them up for letting things get too far if it escalates. I’m just not sure what to do, if anything, at this point.